Copyright © The A.A. Grapevine, Inc., June 1945
Anyone
who tried to impress a drinking alcoholic with the approach, “You
can’t have your cake and eat it, too,” would probably draw a
scornful, “So what! Who wants any cake? Tony, make it a double this
time.”
The
same idea expressed as, “You can’t have your bottle and drink it,
too,” might get his attention because to a drinking alcoholic a
fresh unopened bottle, brimming brightly with abundance, is a symbol
of good things to come. He knows well enough, of course, that he
can’t drink it and still have it, but he blocks his mind to the
inevitability of that horrible moment when the last bottle will be
empty.
The
untapped bottle remains a symbol to the non-drinking alcoholic, at
least to the alcoholic who has dried up in A.A. So long as it stands
unopened it represents drinks he has not taken, and the good things
of life he has found by not drinking.
Yet
now and then a persevering soul tries to have both the figurative and
the liquid contents of the bottle. He tries to make an impossible
compromise.
In
the opinion of a man who has administered personally to at least
10,000 alcoholics, the attempt to make this kind of compromise is one
of the most common causes of failure to get a safe hold on A.A.
Dr.
W.D. Silkworth, genial and beloved little patriarch at Towns
Hospital, New York, for twelve years and now (1945) also in charge of
the new A.A. ward at Knickerbocker, also New York, defines it as the
“alcoholic double-cross.”
“The
majority who slip after periods of sobriety,” says Dr. Silkworth,
“having double-crossed themselves into thinking that somehow they
can have the unopened bottle and drink it, too. Even though they have
been in A.A. and going to meetings, and following parts of the
program, they have accepted it with reservations somewhere. They
actually have been one step ahead of a drink. Then they began playing
around with the notion they can drink a little and still have the
good things of A.A. The outcome is an inevitable as the bottle
becoming empty once it has been opened by the alcoholic.”
When
Dr. Silkworth discusses A.A. “slips” his usually cheerful face
becomes serious even a little grim. Through his long years of
practice in the field, he has become increasingly sympathetic, but
not case-hardened, to alcoholics. He understands what they
experience. Having been one of the first in his profession to support
A.A. and having guided scores of alcoholics into A.A., he also
appreciates the fact that a “slip” for an A.A. involves an extra
degree of remorse and misery.
Dr. Silkworth is particularly emphatic on one point.
“Slips
are not the fault of A.A. I have heard patients complain, when
brought in for another drying out, that A.A. failed them. The truth,
of course, is that they failed A.A.
But this mental manoeuvring to transfer the blame is obviously another indication of fallacious thinking. It is another symptom of the disease.”
A
quick way to get Dr. Silkworth’s appraisal of A.A. is to ask him
how he thinks “slips” can be prevented.
“First,”
he explains, “let’s remember the cause. The A.A. who “slips”
has not accepted the A.A. program in its entirety. He has a
reservation, or reservations. He’s tried to make a compromise.
Frequently, of course, he will say he doesn’t know why he reverted
to a drink. He means that sincerely and, as a matter of fact, he may
not be aware of any reason. But if his thoughts can be probed deeply
enough a reason can usually be found in the form of a reservation.”
“The
preventive, therefore, is acceptance of the A.A. program and A.A.
principles without any reservations. This brings us to what I call
the moral issue and to what I have always believed from the first to
be the essence of A.A."
“Why
does this moral issue and belief in a power greater than oneself
appear to be the essential principle of A.A.? First, an important
comparison is found in the fact that all other plans involving
psychoanalysis, will-power, restraint and other ingenious ideas have
failed in 95 per cent of the cases. A second is that all movements of
reform minus a moral issue have passed into oblivion.”
“Whatever
may be the opinions one professes in the matter of philosophy
-whether one is a spiritualist or a scientific materialist - one
should recognize the reciprocal influence which the moral and
physical exert upon each other. Alcoholism is a mental and physical
issue. Physically a man has developed an illness. He cannot use
alcohol in moderation, at least not for a period of enduring length.
If the alcoholic starts to drink, he sooner or later develops the
phenomenon of craving.”
“Mentally,
this same alcoholic develops an obsessive type of thinking which, in
itself a neurosis, offers an unfavorable prognosis through former
plans of treatment. Physically - science does not know why - a man
cannot drink in moderation. But through moral psychology - a new
interpretation of an old idea - A.A. has been able to solve his
former mental obsession. It is the vital principle of A.A., without
which A.A. would have failed even as other forms of treatment have
failed."
“To
be sure, A.A. offers a number of highly useful tools or props. Its
group therapy is very effective. I have seen countless demonstrations
of how well your ‘24-hour plan’ operates. The principle of
working with other alcoholics has a sound psychological basis. All of
these features of the program are extremely important.”
“But,
in my opinion, the key principle which makes A.A. work where other
plans have proved inadequate is the way of life it proposes based
upon the belief of the individual in a Power greater than himself and
the faith that this Power is all sufficient to destroy the obsession
which possessed him and was destroying him mentally and physically.”
“For
many years I faced this alcoholic problem being sure of one
scientific fact - that detoxication by medical treatment must precede
any psychiatric approach. I have tried many of these orthodox
psychiatric approaches and invented some new ones of my own. With
some patients I would be coldly analytical, if they were of the
so-called ‘scientific’ type who is apt to have a superior
attitude toward anything emotional or spiritual. With others, I would
try the ‘scare’ method, telling them that if they continued to
drink they would kill themselves. With still others, I would attempt
the emotional appeal, working both the patient and myself into a
lather. He might be moved to the point of shaking hands dramatically
and telling me, with tears streaming down his face, that he was never
going to take another drink. And I knew that the probability was he
would be drunk again within two weeks or less.”
“Since
I have been working with A.A. the comparative percentage of
successful results has increased to an amazing extent.”
“The
percentage of success that A.A. has scored leaves no doubt that it
has something more than we as doctors can offer. It is, I am
convinced, your second step. Once the A.A. alcoholic has grasped
that, he will have no more “slips.”
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