Alcoholics Anonymous
An
Interpretation of the Twelve Steps
(Also
known as the Washington DC pamphlet or the "Tablemate")
Preface
The
following pages contain the basic material for the discussion
meetings for alcoholics only. These meetings are held for the purpose
of acquainting both old and new members with the twelve steps on
which our program is based. So that all twelve steps may be covered
in a minimum of time they are divided into four classifications and
one evening each week will be devoted to each of the four
subdivisions. Thus, in one month, a new man can get the basis of our
twelve suggested steps.
We
admitted we were powerless over alcohol - -that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Came
to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
sanity.
Made
a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as
we understood Him.
Made
a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Admitted
to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of
our wrongs.
Were
entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Humbly
asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Made
a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make
amends to them all.
Made
direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so
would injure them or others.
Continued
to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted
it.
Sought
through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with
God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for
us and the power to carry that out.
Having
had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to
carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in
all our affairs.
These
steps are divided as follows:
Discussion
No. 1 The Admission Step No. 1
Discussion
No. 2 The Spiritual Phase Steps 2, 3, 5, 6, 7 and 11
Discussion
No. 3 The Inventory and Restitution Steps No. 4, 8, 9 and 10
Discussion
No. 4 The Active Work which is Step No. 12.
DISCUSSION
No. 1
THE
ADMISSION
The
material contained herein is merely an outline of the admission phase
of the program and is not intended to replace or supplant:
a.
The careful reading and re-reading of the Big Book.
b.
Regular attendance at weekly group meetings.
c.
Study of the program.
d.
Daily practice of the program.
e.
Reading of approved printed material on alcoholism.
f.
Informal discussion with other members.
This
meeting covers:
Step
No. 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - - that our lives
had become unmanageable.
This
instruction is not a short-cut to A.A. It is an introduction - - a
help - - a brief course in the fundamentals.
In
order to determine whether or not a person had drifted from "social
drinking" into pathological drinking it is well to check over a
list of test questions, which each member may ask himself and answer
for himself. We must answer once and for all these three puzzling
questions :
What
is an alcoholic? Who is an alcoholic? Am I an alcoholic?
To
get the right answer the prospective member must start this course of
instruction with:
A
willingness to learn. We must not have the attitude that "you've
got to show me."
An
open mind. Forget any and all notions we already have. Set our
opinions aside.
Complete
honesty. It is possible - - not at all probable - - that we may fool
somebody else. But we must be honest with ourselves, and it is a good
time to start being honest with others.
Suggested
Test Questions
1.
Do you require a drink the next morning?
2.
Do you prefer a drink alone?
3.
Do you lose time from work due to drinking?
4.
Is your drinking harming your family in any way?
5.
Do you crave a drink at a definite time daily?
6.
Do you get the inner shakes unless you continue drinking?
7.
Has drinking made you irritable?
8.
Does drinking make you careless of your family's welfare?
9.
Have you harmed your husband or wife since drinking?
10.
Has drinking changed your personality?
11.
Does drinking cause you bodily complaints?
12.
Does drinking make you restless?
13.
Does drinking cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?
14.
Has drinking made you more impulsive?
15.
Have you less self-control since drinking?
16.
Has your initiative decreased since drinking?
17.
Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
18.
Do you lack perseverance in pursuing a goal since drinking?
19.
Do you drink to obtain social ease? (In shy, timid, self-conscious
individuals.)
20
Do you drink for self-encouragement? (In persons with feelings of
inferiority.)
21
Do you drink to relieve marked feelings of inadequacy?
22.
Has your sexual potency suffered since drinking?
23.
Do you show marked dislikes and hatreds since drinking?
24.
Has your jealousy, in general, increased since drinking?
25.
Do you show marked moodiness as a result of drinking?
26.
Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
27.
Has your drinking made you more sensitive?
28.
Are you harder to get along with since drinking?
29.
Do you turn to an inferior environment since drinking?
30.
Is drinking endangering your health?
31.
Is drinking affecting your peace of mind?
32.
Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
33.
Is drinking jeopardizing your business?
34.
Is drinking clouding your reputation?
35.
Is drinking disturbing the harmony of your life?
If
you have answered yes to any one of the Test Questions, there is a
definite warning that you may be alcoholic.
If
you answered yes to any two of the Test Questions, the chances are
that you are an alcoholic.
If
you answer yes to three or more of the Test Questions you are
definitely an alcoholic.
NOTE:
The Test Questions are not A.A. questions but are the guide used by
Johns Hopkins University Hospital in deciding whether a patient is
alcoholic or not.
In
addition to the Test Questions, we in A.A. would ask even more
questions. Here are a few:
36.
Have you ever had a complete loss of memory while, or after,
drinking?
37.
Have you ever felt, when or after drinking, an inability to
concentrate?
38.
Have you ever felt remorse after drinking?
40.
Has a physician ever treated you for drinking?
41.
Have you ever been hospitalized for drinking?
42.
Many other questions could be asked, but the foregoing are sufficient
for the purpose of this instruction.
Why
Does An Alcoholic Drink?
Having
decided that we are alcoholics, it is well to consider what competent
mental doctors consider as the reasons why an alcoholic drinks:
1.
As an escape from situations of life which he cannot face.
2.
As evidence of a maladjusted personality (including sexual
maladjustments).
3.
As a development from social drinking to pathological drinking.
4.
As a symptom of a major abnormal mental state.
5.
As an escape from incurable physical pain.
6.
As a symptom of constitutional inferiority - - a psychopathic
personality.
For
example, an individual who drinks because he likes alcohol, knows he
cannot handle it, but does not care.
Many
times one cannot determine any great and glaring mechanism as the
basis of why the drinker drinks, but the revealing fact may be
elicited: that alcohol is taken to relieve a certain vague
restlessness in the individual, incident to friction between his
biological and emotional makeup and the ordinary strains of life.
The
above reasons are general reasons. Where the individuality or
personality of the alcoholic is concerned these reasons may be
divided as follows:
A
self-pampering tendency which manifests itself in refusal to
tolerate, even temporarily, unpleasant states of mind such as
boredom, sorrow, anger, disappointment, worry, depression,
dissatisfaction, and feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. "I
want what I want when I want it" seems to express the attitude
of many alcoholics toward life.
1.
An instinctive urge for self-expression, unaccompanied by
determination to translate the urge into creative action.
2.
An abnormal craving for emotional experience which calls for removal
of intellectual restraint.
3.
Powerful hidden ambitions, without the necessary resolve to take
practical steps to attain them, and with resultant discontent,
irritability, depression, disgruntledness, and general restlessness.
4.
A tendency to flinch from the worries of life and to seek escape from
reality by the easiest means available.
5.
An unreasonable demand for continuous happiness or excitement.
6.
An insistent craving for the feeling of self-confidence, calm, and
poise that some obtain temporarily from alcohol.
We
Admit
If
after carefully considering the foregoing, we admit we are
alcoholics, we must realize that, once a person becomes a
pathological drinker, he can never again become a controlled drinker,
and from that point on, is limited to just two alternatives:
Total
permanent abstinence.
Chronic
alcoholism with all of the handicaps and penalties it implies.
In
other words, we have gone past the point where we had a choice. All
we have left is a decision to make.
We
Resolve to Do Something About It
We
must change our way of thinking. (This is such an important matter
that it will have to be discussed more fully in a later discussion).
We
must realize that each morning when we wake, we are potential
drunkards for that day.
We
resolve that we will practice A.A. for the 24 hours of that day.
We
must study the other eleven steps of the program and practice each
and every one.
Attend
the regular group meeting each week without fail.
Firmly
believe that by practicing A.A. faithfully each day, we will achieve
sobriety.
Believe
that we can be free from alcohol as a problem.
Contact
another member before taking a drink, not after. Tell him what
bothers you - - talk it over with him freely.
Work
the program for ourselves alone - - not for our wife, children,
friends, or for our job.
Be
absolutely honest and sincere.
Be
fully openminded - - no mental reservations.
Be
fully willing to work the program. Nothing good in life comes without
work.
Conclusion
Alcoholics
are suffering from a threefold disease, not only a physical illness.
Fortunately, we in A.A. have learned how it may be controlled. (This
will be shown in the next eleven steps of the program.)
We
can also learn to be free from alcohol as a problem.
We
can achieve a full and happy life without recourse to alcohol.
ASK
QUESTIONS
No
question pertaining to drinking, or stopping drinking, is silly or
irrelevant. The matter is too serious. Any questions we ask may help
someone else. This is not a shortcut to A.A., it is an introduction,
a help, a brief course in fundamentals. In A.A. we learn by question
and answer; we learn by exchanging our thought and our experience
with each other. Any question you ask may help someone else. To cover
as many questions as possible in the short time available, all
answers must be limited to three minutes.
I
know that if this program works for me and I am able to maintain a
sober, peaceful life, it will not be through any strength of mine,
but rather, the Man Upstairs has reached down and given me a helping
hand. Strange as it may seem - - it works.
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DISCUSSION
No. 2
THE
SPIRITUAL PHASE
The
material contained herein is merely an outline of the spiritual phase
of the program and is not intended to replace or supplant:
a.
The careful reading and re-reading of the Big Book.
b.
Regular attendance at weekly group meetings.
c.
Study of the program.
d.
Daily practice of the program.
e.
Reading of approved printed material on alcoholism.
f.
Informal discussion with other members.
This
instruction is not a short-cut to A.A. It is an introduction - - a
help - - a brief course in fundamentals.
This
meeting covers Steps 2, 3, 5, 6, 7, and 11. We will take them in
order.
Step
No. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could
restore us to sanity.
Our
drinking experience has shown:
That
as we strayed away from the normal social side of life, our minds
became confused and we strayed away from the normal mental side of
life.
An
abnormal mental condition is certainly not sanity in the accepted
sense of the word. We have acquired or developed a mental disease.
Our study of A.A. shows that:
In
the mental or tangible side of life we have lost touch with, or
ignored, or have forgotten the spiritual values that give us the
dignity of man as differentiated from the animal. We have fallen back
upon the material things of life and these have failed us. We have
been groping in the dark.
No
human agency, no science or art has been able to solve the alcoholic
problem, so we turn to the spiritual for guidance.
Therefore
we "came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could
restore us to sanity." We must believe with a great FAITH.
Step
No. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the
care of God as we understood Him.
In
the first step we learned that we had lost the power of choice and
had to make a decision. What decision could we make better than to
turn our very will over to God, realizing that our own use of our own
will had resulted in trouble. As in the Lord's Prayer, you must
believe and practice thy will be done.
God
as we understand Him. Religion is a word we do not use in A.A. We
refer to a member's relation to God as the spiritual. A religion is a
form of worship - - not the worship itself.
If
a man cannot believe in God he can certainly believe in something
greater than himself. If he cannot believe in a power greater than
himself he is a rather hopeless egotist.
Step
No. 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the
exact nature of our wrongs.
There
is nothing new in this step. There are many sound reasons for
"talking over our troubles out loud with others." The
Catholic already has this medium readily available to him in the
confessional. But - - the Catholic is at a disadvantage if he thinks
his familiarity with confession permits him to think his part of A.A.
is thereby automatically taken care of. He must, in confession,
seriously consider his problems in relation to his alcoholic
thinking.
The
non-Catholic has the way open to work this step by going to his
minister, his doctor, or his friend.
Under
this step it is not even necessary to go to a priest or minister. Any
understanding human being, friend or stranger, will serve the
purpose.
The
purpose and intent of this step is so plain and definite that it
needs little explanation. The point is that we must do exactly what
the fifth step says, sooner or later. We must not be in rush to get
this step off our chest. Consider it carefully and calmly. Then get
about it and do it.
"Wrongs"
do not necessarily mean crime. It can well be wrong thinking - -
selfishness - - false pride - - egotism - - or any one of a hundred
such negative faults.
Step
No. 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of
character.
After
admitting our wrong thinking and wrong actions in step five we now do
something more than "admit" or "confess."
We
now become ready and willing to have God remove the defects in our
character.
Remember
it is our character we are working on. Not the other fellow's. Here
is a good place to drop the critical attitude toward others - - the
superior attitude toward others.
We
must clean our mind of wrong thinking - - petty jealousy - - envy - -
self pity - - remorse, etc.
Here
is the place to drop resentments, one of the biggest hurdles the
alcoholic had to get over.
What
concerns us here is that we drop all thoughts of resentment: anger,
hatred, revenge.
We
turn our will over to God and let his will direct us how to patiently
remove, one by one, all defects in our character.
Step
No. 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
The
meaning of this step is clear: prayer, humility.
Prayer
No man can tell another how to pray. Each one has, or works out for
himself, his own method.
If
we cannot pray, we just talk to God and tell him our troubles.
Meditate (think clearly and cleanly) and ask God to direct our
thoughts.
Christ
said, "ask and ye shall receive." What method is simpler? -
- merely ask. If you cannot pray, ask God to teach you to pray.
Humility
This simply is the virtue of being ourselves and realizing how small
we are in a big world full of its own trouble.
Drop
all pretense. We must not be Mr. Big Shot - - bragging, boasting.
Shed
false pride. Tell the simple, plain, unvarnished truth.
Act,
walk, and talk simply. See the little bit of good that exists in an
evil man; forget the little bit of evil that exists in a good man.
We
must not look down on the very lowest of God's creations or man's
mistakes. Think clearly, honestly, fairly, generously.
The
shortcomings we ask God to remove are the very defects in character
that make us drink - - the same defects we drink to hide or get away
from.
Step
No. 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with GOD as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of
His will for us and the power to carry that out.
We
pray each night - - every night - - a prayer of thanks.
We
pray each morning - - every morning - - for help and guidance.
When
we are lonely, confused, uncertain - - we pray.
Most
of us find it well to - -
1.
Choose, for each day, a "quiet time" to meditate on the
program, on our progress in it.
2.
Keep conscious contact with God and pray to make that contact closer.
3.
Pray that our will be laid aside and that God's will direct us.
4.
Pray for calmness - - quiet - - relaxation - - rest.
5.
Pray for strength and courage to enable us to do today's work today.
6.
Pray for forgiveness for yesterday's errors.
7.
Ask for hope for better things tomorrow.
8.
Pray for what we feel we need. We will not get what we want - - we
will get what we need, what is good for us.
Conclusion
- We find that no one need have difficulty with the spiritual side of
the program. Willingness, Honesty, and Open-Mindedness are the
essentials of recovery. But these are indispensable.
ASK
QUESTIONS
No
question pertaining to drinking, or stopping drinking, is silly or
irrelevant. The matter is too serious. In A.A. we learn by question
and answer. We learn by exchanging our thoughts and our experience
with each other. Any question you ask may help someone else. To cover
as many questions as possible in the short time available, all
answers must be limited to three minutes.
God
grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage
to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
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DISCUSSION
No. 3
INVENTORY
and RESTITUTION
The
material contained herein is merely an outline of the inventory and
restitution steps and is not intended to replace or supplant:
a.
The careful reading and re-reading of the Big Book.
b.
Regular attendance at weekly group meetings.
c.
Study of the program.
d.
Daily practice of the program.
e.
Reading of approved printed matter on alcoholism.
f.
Informal discussion with other members.
This
instruction is not a short-cut to A.A. It is an introduction - - a
help - - a brief course in fundamentals.
This
meeting covers Steps 4, 8, 9, 10. We will take them in order.
Step
No. 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
The
intent and purpose of this step is plain. All alcoholics have a
definite need for a good self-analysis - - a sort of self-appraisal.
Other people have certainly analyzed us, appraised us, criticized us
and even judged us. It might be a good idea to judge ourselves,
calmly and honestly. We need inventory because:
Either
our faults, weaknesses, defects of character, are the cause of our
drinking, or our drinking has weakened our character and led us into
all kinds of wrong action, wrong attitudes, wrong viewpoints. In
either event we obviously need an inventory and the only kind of
inventory to make is a good one. Moreover, the job is up to us. We
created or we let develop all the anti-social actions that got us in
the wrong. So we have got to work it out. We must make out a list of
our faults and then we must do something about it.
The
inventory must be four things:
1.
It must be honest. Why waste time fooling ourselves with a phony
list? We have fooled ourselves for years, we tried to fool others,
and now is a good time to look ourselves squarely in the eye.
2.
It must be searching. Why skip over a vital matter lightly and
quickly? Our trouble is a grave mental disease, confused by screwy
thinking. Therefore, we must search diligently and fearlessly to get
at the truth of what is wrong with us - - just dig in and search.
3.
It must be fearless. We must not be afraid we might find things in
our heart, mind and soul that we will hate to discover. If we do find
such things they may be the root of our trouble.
4.
It must be a moral inventory. Some, in error, think the inventory is
a lot of unpaid debts, plus a list of unmade apologies. Our trouble
lies much deeper.
We
will find the root of our trouble lies in Resentments, False Pride,
Envy, Jealousy, Selfishness and many other things. Laziness is an
important one. In other words we are making an inventory of our
character: our attitude toward others, our very way of living.
We
are not preparing a financial statement. We will pay our bills all
right, because we cannot even begin to practice A.A. without honesty.
Step
No. 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing
to make amends to them all.
Under
this step we will make a mental or written list of those we have
harmed. We ask God to let his will be done, not our will, and ask for
the strength and courage to become willing to forget resentments and
false pride and make amends to those we have harmed. We must not do
this step grudgingly, or as an unpleasant task to be rid of quickly.
We must do it willingly, fairly, and humbly - - without
condescension.
Step
No. 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except
when to do so would injure them or others.
This
is where we make peace with ourselves by making peace with those we
have hurt. The amends we make must be direct. We must pay in kind for
the hurt we have done them.
If
we have cheated we must make restitution.
If
we have hurt their feelings we must ask forgiveness from them.
The
list of harms done may be long but the list of amends is equally
long. For every wrong we have done, there is a right we may do to
compensate.
There
is only one exception. We must develop a sense of justice, a spirit
of fairness, an attitude of common sense. If our effort to make
amends would create further harm or cause a scandal, we will have to
skip the direct amends and clean the matter up under Step Five.
Step
No. 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong
promptly admitted it.
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In
coming into A.A. we usually will have a pretty big inventory to work
on, as in Steps Four, Eight, and Nine. But even after that, we will
not be perfect. We have a long way to go. We will continue to make
mistakes and will be inclined to do some more wrong thinking and
wrong doing. So at intervals, we continue to take inventory. Here the
purpose is to check on our progress. We certainly cannot be perfect,
so the need for regular inventory is apparent.
These
inventories are personal. We confine the inventory to ourselves. We
are the ones who need it. Never mind the other fellow! He too is
probably troubled and will have to make his own inventory.
When
we make these inventories, probably the best way to start is to go
over (one by one) each of the twelve steps, and try to discover just
what (in these steps) we are not following.
The
businessman has to make a physical inventory from time to time. We
have to make a personal inventory of ourselves from time to time if
we want to recover from a serious mental illness.
Character
Defects and Vices
So
much for the inventory steps - - now look at some of the things we
would do well to cover in an inventory:
1.
Selfishness - - the common vice of all alcoholics.
2.
Egotism - - who is without some of it? Self-Importance, Mr. Big.
3.
False Pride - - too big to admit a fault or an error.
4.
Impatience - - the spoiled child in a grown man.
5.
Resentments - - an alcoholic usually is sore at the whole world.
Everybody is wrong!
6.
Lack of common honesty - - usually fooling ourselves and trying to
fool others.
a.
False pretense
b.
Sham
c.
Deceit
d.
Hate - - the outgrowth of anger and resentment
e.
Jealousy - - just wanting what the other fellow worked to get.
f.
Envy - - a sure-fire cause of discontent and unhappiness.
g.
Laziness - - just plain laziness.
h.
And so on through a long list.
Conversely
Our Inventory Could Show a List of Virtues which we very definitely
lack and should go to work on to develop such as:
a.
Honesty
b.
Simple Justice
c.
Fairness
d.
Generosity
e.
Truthfulness
f.
Modesty Humility
g.
Honest Pride in work well done
h.
Simplicity
i.
Patience
j.
Industry (go to work and really work)
k.
And so on through a long list.
Then
Consider a Few Major Virtues
FAITH
If we have lost faith we must work desperately hard to get it back.
Ask God to give us faith in him, our fellow man, and ourselves.
HOPE
If we have lost hope we are dead pigeons. Only those who have been
cruelly hurt and in desperate need can know the wonderful sense of
security that lies in hope for better things.
TRUST
Since our own self-sufficient conduct of our own life has failed us,
we must put our trust in God, who has never failed.
ASK
QUESTIONS
No
question pertaining to drinking, or stopping drinking, is silly or
irrelevant. The matter is too serious. In A.A. we learn by question
and answer. We learn by exchanging our thought and our experience
with each other. Any question we ask may help someone else. To cover
as many questions as possible in the short time available, all
answers must be limited to three minutes.
HUMILITY
A state of humility is very difficult to attain, but the goal is well
worth the effort, considering the serenity that is achieved.
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DISCUSSION
No. 4
ACTIVE
WORK
The
material contained herein is merely an outline of the active working
step of the program and is not intended to replace or supplant:
a.
The careful reading and re-reading of the Big Book.
b.
Regular attendance at weekly group meetings.
c.
Study of the program.
d.
Daily practice of the program.
e.
Reading of approved printed matter on alcoholism.
f.
Informal discussion with other members.
This
instruction is not a short-cut to A.A. It is an introduction - - a
help - - a brief course in fundamentals.
This
meeting covers the Twelfth Step.
Step
No. 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these
steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice
these principles in all our affairs.
This
step logically separates into three parts:
1.
The Spiritual Experience
The
terms "spiritual experience" and "spiritual awakening"
used here and in the book Alcoholics Anonymous mean (upon careful
reading)
that
the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from
alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many forms.
Do
NOT get the impression that these personality changes or spiritual
experiences must be in the nature of sudden and spectacular
upheavals. Happily for everyone, this conclusion is erroneous. Among
our rapidly growing membership of thousands of alcoholics such
transformations, though frequent, are by no means the rule.
Most
of our experiences are what psychologist William James calls "the
educational variety" because they develop slowly over a period
of time.
Quite
often friends of the newcomer are aware of the difference long before
he is himself. The new man gradually realizes that he has undergone a
profound alteration in his reaction to life - - that such a change
could hardly have been brought about by himself alone. What often
takes place in a few months could seldom have been accomplished by
years of self-discipline. With few exceptions our members find that
they have tapped an unsuspected inner resource which they presently
identify with their own conception of a Power greater than
themselves.
Most
emphatically we wish to say that any alcoholic capable of honestly
facing his problem in the light of our experience can recover
provided he does not close his mind to all spiritual concepts. He can
only be defeated by an attitude of intolerance or belligerent denial.
We
find that no one need have difficulty with the spiritual side of the
program. Willingness, Honesty, and Open-Mindedness are the essentials
of recovery. But these are indispensable.
2.
Carry the Message to Others
This
means exactly what it says. Carry the message actively. Bring it to
the man who needs it. We do it in many ways:
By
attending every meeting of our own group.
By
making calls when asked.
By
speaking at group meetings when asked.
By
supporting our group financially to make group meetings possible.
By
assisting at meetings when asked.
By
setting a good example of complete sobriety.
By
owning, and loaning to new men, our own copy of the Big A.A. Book.
By
encouraging those who find the way difficult.
By
serving as an officer or on group committees or special assignments
when asked.
By
doing all of the foregoing cheerfully and willingly.
We
do any or all of the foregoing at some sacrifice to ourselves with
definite thought of developing unselfishness in our own character.
3.
We Practice These Principles in All Our Affairs
This
last part of the Twelfth Step is the real purpose that all of the
twelve steps lead to - - a new way of life, a design for living. It
shows how to live rightly, think rightly and to achieve happiness.
How
do we go about it?
We
resolve to live our life one day at a time - - just twenty-four
hours.
We
pray each day for guidance that day.
We
pray each night - - thanks for that day.
We
resolve to keep our heads and to forego any anger, no matter what
situation arises.
We
are patient.
We
keep calm, relaxed.
Now
and most important: whatever little ordinary situations as well as
big situations arise, we look at them calmly and fairly, with an open
mind, then act on them in exact accordance with the simple true
principles that A.A. has taught and will teach us.
In
other words, our sobriety is only a correction of our worst and most
evident faults. Our living each day according to the principles of
A.A. will also correct all of our other lesser faults and will
gradually eliminate, one by one, all of the defects in our character
that cause frictions, discontents, and unhappy rebellious moods that
lead right back to our very chief fault of drinking.
ASK
QUESTIONS
No
question pertaining to drinking, or stopping drinking, is silly or
irrelevant. The matter is too serious. In A.A. we learn by question
and answer. We learn by exchanging our thought and experience with
each other. Any question we ask may help someone else. To cover as
many questions as possible in the short time available, all answers
must be limited to three minutes.
Staying
on the Beam
Today
most commercial flying is done on a radio beam. A directional beam is
produced to guide the pilot to his destination, and as long as he
keeps on this beam he knows that he is safe, even if he cannot see
around him for fog, or get his bearings in any other way.
As
soon as he gets off the beam in any direction he is in danger, and he
immediately tries to get back on to the beam once more.
Those
who believe in the All-ness of God, have a spiritual beam upon which
to navigate on the voyage of life. As long as you have peace of mind
and some sense of the Presence of God you are on the beam, and you
are safe, even if outer things seem to be confused or even very dark;
but as soon as you get off the beam you are in danger.
You
are off the beam the moment you are angry or resentful or jealous or
frightened or depressed; and when such a condition arises you should
immediately get back on the beam by turning quietly to God in
thought, claiming His Presence, claiming that His Love and
Intelligence are with you, and that the promises in the Bible are
true today.
If
you do this you are back on the beam, even if outer conditions and
your own feelings do not change immediately. You are back on the beam
and you will reach port in safety.
Keep
on the beam and nothing shall by any means hurt you.
-
- Emmet Fox
Lest
We Forget
I
shall pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I
can do, or any kindness I can show to any human being, let me do it
NOW. Let me not defer it, or neglect it, for I shall not pass this
way again.
-
- Stephen Grellet (1773-1855)
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